10 Quotes and Verses to Help You When You Feel Out of Control

Day 12

Honestly, I have no idea what day we are on quarantine-wise. The official timeline for us was on March 16, so we are just sitting here 12 days in and really trying to make the most of a horrible situation. Family walks. Long runs. Lots of power yoga at home. Lots of FaceTime conversations and virtual happy hours. Happy hours on walks with the family. Lots of books, lots of work, lots of arts and crafts, lots of card games. Lots of take out. Lots of baking. Lots of swimming. Lots of playing outdoors. Lots of online shopping.

It’s day 12. This situation is one that’s still going to get worse before it gets better – and that’s just how it is. We are making the most of our time at home, but our new normal isn’t quite normal yet. Week one was all about being lazy and relaxing and embracing it because real life really does make us tired and we welcomed that ability to rest). Week two has all us rested and basically antsy. We are bored. We are such an active family that it’s hard for us not to have a trip to go on or a place to visit or the ability to go to the gym or have fun or do anything.

We are handling it all right, but we have our moments.

That said, I’m not here to share with you any hints or tips or sales or tricks or whatever (though Lilly Pulitzer is offering 30 percent of certain items through today – and that never happens outside of the APS twice a year…so get on that).

I just wanted to share a few of my favorite quotes and verses that might help. I know that I go back and forth appreciating this time with our babies and my handsome husband and worrying about every single thing. Our sweet Ava was diagnosed with asthma when she was 15 months. She hasn’t had an episode in which she’s needed her inhaler in so long that we almost forgot she had it until about six months ago when she had an asthma attack. I lay awake at night wondering if she’s immunocompromised and at risk. Same for Carter, our sweet little man with his one and done grand mal seizure 13 months ago. Does that make him immunocompromised? I don’t know, but I worry.

And when I worry, there are few things that make me feel calm. Number one, always, is my husband. He always knows when I’m stressed or upset, and he always knows how to make it right. The kiddos help, too. And so does reading a few of my favorite quotes and verses for strength and hard times. So, in case you need them.

  1. When you can’t control what’s happening, challenge yourself to control the way you are responding to what’s happening. That’s where the power is.
  2. God sometimes takes us into troubled waters not to drown us, but to cleanse us.
  3. You’ll drive yourself crazy trying to control something that isn’t yours to control. Let go. Free yourself. Allow your mind and energy to focus on something positive…to build something beautiful. – Steve Maraboli
  4. Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid. Do not be discouraged. For the Lord, your God, is with you wherever you go. – Joshua 1:9
  5. The pain that you’ve been feeling can’t compare to the joy that’s coming. – Romans 8:18
  6. When you go through deep waters, I will be with you. – Isaiah 43:2
  7. Do not grieve. For the joy of the Lord is your strength. – Nehemiah 8:10
  8. May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears. – Nelson Mandela
  9. Be still and know that I am with you. – Psalm 46:10
  10. Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. – John 14:27

This, too, shall pass. Let’s allow it to pass with grace.

Motivation Monday: My 5 Favorite Quotes and Verses

It’s Monday, which means most people feel unmotivated – but not I. I love a good Monday. It’s a cliché, but it’s really a fresh start. It’s also the day after my rest day, which means I usually feel full and content and happy. Sundays are family days for us. It’s the day we attempt to plan nothing but church, the day we conquer as a family, and it’s a sweet, slow, special day.

I need more Sundays in my life.

But Monday isn’t so bad. It’s true that when you love what you do, you never have a problem with Monday. I love that quote, which brings me to the point of today’s post: Motivation and Inspiration. I’m a big fan of both.

I need a pick-me-up sometimes, and I find that a good bible verse or quote is often all I need to motivate me to work harder and smarter or inspire me to try something new. I have a new favorite quote or saying almost every day depending on my mood, and I thought I’d share some hashtag motivational Monday with you all today to get you through the rest of your days and into the week.

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Simplicity is the Ultimate Sophistication

  • Leonardo da Vinci

Whether it’s at home, in life, in my career, with my kids, with my marriage; I like simplicity. I love this quote because it’s a wonderful reminder that too much is, well, too much – and that making life more complicated is pointless. I like simplicity.

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The Lord will fight for you; you need only be still

  • Exodus 14:14

Sometimes when life is overwhelming for me, I call upon this verse to remind me that I need rest. I allow myself to always overdo it, to stress myself out. I overbook, I over plan, and I over commit myself so often that it’s not uncommon for me to cry in frustration to my husband about why I never have time, why I’m always so stressed, and why I’m never rested. He reminds me of this verse, and it’s been the catalyst that’s changed my life in 2017.

At the beginning of the year I said I’d take this to heart: I need only be still. This, to me, says I need to rest so God can work for me. He can restore my soul, my heart, and my faith if I only rest. This was the verse that led me to make the decision that I’d go into this year not making plans every single weekend, not committing myself to things all the time, and that I’d take time to do what is well within my own soul. It’s been so nice to be less busy, to be less overbooked, and to have more freedom to make decisions that apply to what we need in the moment rather than what we planned months ago. I’m learning how to balance it all, but it’s rest I’ve so desperately needed – and this verse served as my reminder.

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Do what you feel in your heart to be right – for you’ll be criticized anyway

  • Eleanor Roosevelt

So many of us worry so much about the opinion of others, we forget to be ourselves. You know what I’ve learned in almost 9 years and tens of thousands of published articles for my clients and on my newly created blog? I’ve learned that I can be perfect, polite, mean, horrible, judgmental, kind, honest, or straight up and I will never please everyone. It’s just easier to be myself in all aspects of life than it is to worry about what everyone else thinks since someone is always going to dislike me for whatever reason. The good news is that I no longer care, and that’s made being myself so much sweeter.

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No one can make you feel inferior without your consent

  • Eleanor Roosevelt

When I first began writing and the emails began to roll in, I had no idea just how mean people are. I’ve been called every name in the book, threatened, spoken down to, and so many hurtful things have been said to me by people I’ve never even met. There was a time I’d read each and every email that came through, and I’d feel horrible. That’s when I remembered people can think what they’d like, but it’s me who gives them permission to make me feel poorly about myself. When I take the time to remind myself I’m successful, driven, and passionate about my life, no one can make me feel inferior.

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Faith: It does not make things easy, it makes them possible

  • Luke 1:37

Ah, my favorite verse. Faith is a beautiful thing, and it’s been there for me when times were very, very tough. When my husband and I were trying to have our second baby and ended up having two miscarriages instead – one on Mother’s Day – this was the verse I read over and over and over again for mothers.

I was terrified my faith was wavering with the loss of those babies, and the hits just kept coming with the second miscarriage followed by an immediate pregnancy we didn’t want at that point because it was too soon and we were too terrified it would end badly. I bled. A lot. I spent a lot of time in the hospital being tested as I bled through that pregnancy following those miscarriages. We were told our sweet baby girl had a echogenic intracardiac focus and we should prepare ourselves to make a tough choice if further testing proved this spot of calcium in her heart was Downs Syndrome.

It was the most trying, most devastating time, and it tested every ounce of my faith. This verse – it’s everything. Hold on to this one. Because it’s true – faith doesn’t make life easy, but it does make everything in life possible.

What are your favorite quotes or verses? I’d love to hear a few!